Can the words that you hear lift you up or drag you down?

Can two different people say the same thing to you, yet you interpret it differently, depending on which person said the words?

Is it always their tone of voice and/or body language that makes the difference?

Or is it the sub-conscious image that we have of each person?

Do some words instil indignation or happiness in you? Could they be said by anyone? or just one person in particular – yet they still cause a reaction?

Can some words have the effect of taking you back in time, to something that happened in the past?

I have started to take more notice of my reactions when I feel a bit stressed, or even a big bit stressed! Some of the triggers are literally just ‘what’ has been said to me and how ‘I’ interpret it! Just words – words that generate a real reaction.

Some triggers are just by one person – for example my daughter and I are very similar. She has the ability to push my buttons – and generate an almost instant reaction! Yet my youngest son can say exactly the same words and it is just like water off a ducks back, there is no reaction. I really think that it is because there is something so similar about my daughter, when I was the age she is now. Sometimes I ‘cringe inside’ because I can see how much I did not know and yet I acted as though I had all of the answers.

Now I know that what I am saying is really obvious, yet there is another slightly less obvious side to this. Sometimes it worries me that we can use these situations with ‘words’ to justify walking away from something (eg – an opportunity to grow, a transformational moment, even a friendship or relationship).

It could be that someone asks a question, suggests something, responds to a blog, etc, in a way that creates an uncomfortable feeling inside – and that ends up having a tumbling reaction/justification for walking away.

To me that is the time to sit back, question what the trigger may have been and then see if there is something deeper. Now I remember when I was a real newbie on a site called Transformation.com, I used to blog every day. One day somebody responded to a blog with a slightly stern response. For weeks I felt gutted inside, I took it to heart, decided that the person in question was in the wrong and oh yes I really did justify all of the petty thoughts that I had. Yet over time when I looked at the situation, from a different and deeper level, I found answers and an opportunity for growth that helped me to move forward in a stronger and more positive way. In reality that person gave me a gift.

Love and Light ~ Gratitude and Faith

 

Jaki :)

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